Wednesday night I officiated
Kim and Bill’s wedding at Blue Mesa Grill in Addison, Texas.
Here are the words I shared with them and their guests:
One of
the most beautiful stories of the Bible is the story of Ruth. Naomi, the Judean
mother-in-law of the Moabite Ruth, is trying to convince the latter NOT to
accompany her, as she returns to Judea, a land
foreign to Ruth. Here is Ruth's reply: "Do not entreat me to leave you, to
return from following you, for wherever you go, I will go, and wherever you
lodge, I will lodge; your people shall be my people and your God my God."
Wow. Pretty powerful, huh?
Nice sweet message, and hey we could just smile and move on.
Not so fast.
This story wholly contained
in a tiny eponymous book – if you actually read it, and not massage or distort
its message – is not just powerful; it is actually explosive.
You see, if you listen to
the way many people speak of the Bible today, you get the impression that it is
a methodically edited book, written from one solid organized point of view. And
certainly, if you believe that it contains the inerrant word of God, you may
need to accept this as a prerequisite. And you can pretty much live with that
perspective as long as you are very careful not to do one critical thing:
actually read it. Because, if you actually read the whole Bible, there is no
possible way could come to the conclusion that it was all written by the same
author.
Now, much of this is
observable on a micro level, like there being two contradictory stories of how
the world was created. Where this stands out, though, the most is on a macro
level. You have entire books that are basically written as polemics, books that
argue against another person's premise or point of view. Now, the authors did
not realize these books would end up together with the books they were critical
of, in what we call, the Bible, but the fact they did gives them even more
delicious power. The three books that really stand out in this respect are
Jonah, Ruth and Ecclesiastes.
Ruth is less open critic and
more stealth bomber. It is likely directed at one specific figure, Ezra. Think
old style fire and brimstone Baptist preacher, only not as fun-loving. Ezra, in
his eponymous book, arrives in Judea, which is being slowly rebuilt under the Persian Empire. Before he leaves Persia, he secures the king's permission to
basically establish a theocracy in Judea,
based on his own religious positions. When he arrives he sees that the
pioneers, who returned from the Babylonian exile, are working hard to
reestablish their community. They are getting along pretty well with the other
folks, who never left the Land
of Israel. They make
friends, work on projects together, and fall in love too.
Well, says Ezra, we can't
have any of that! Like the old sitcom record scratch, he arrives and sets out
to do away with this openness and harmony. He knows the enemy when he sees it.
Lack of natural resources? No. Inequality? No. Poverty? No. People of different
ethnic communities working, socializing, and marrying each other? Bingo! He
then sets out on a campaign to not just discourage intermarriage, but force the
dissolution of existing intermarriages.
Now, the Book of Ruth is
written by someone who sees Ezra's actions, and gets good and pissed. He (maybe
she?) is especially upset, because he knows that Ezra, who tries to present
himself as a defender of an ancient and true tradition, is really anything but.
Before Ezra, beyond garden variety xenophobia, no Judean ever said anything
about intermarriage being a huge problem. That is probably why so many of the
Bible's heroes not only intermarried; they intermarried and no one even
commented on it! So this unknown author writes a story, set in what to him are
ancient times, to set the record straight.
Once again, Ruth, the
heroine of the story, is a Moabite woman. The Judeans in the story are all
background figures. First, due to famine, Naomi and her husband and sons move
to Moab,
and the sons marry Moabite women. The male figures all pass away, and Naomi
hears things have gotten better back in Judea.
She sets on a journey to go back, trying to persuade Ruth to stay in Moab. As we
heard though, Ruth will have nothing of it. She vows to stay with Naomi.
When they return to Judea, Naomi masterminds Ruth catching the eye of her
husband's rich and kind relative, Boaz. In a beautiful romantic story, Ruth, a
proto-feminist, if you will, ends up proposing to Boaz. The elders of the town
not only accept this union of Judean man and foreign woman: they embrace it!
They bless Ruth and Boaz, and pray that they should produce worthy heirs, just
as the foreigner matriarchs of Israel,
(hint hint says the author), did. The book ends with a kicker. Guess who this
union produces? Yup, the true leader of Judah; not some scowling priest like
Ezra, but ass-kicking, passionate poet and lover, King David, himself. Had Ezra
had his way, David would never have been born.
This ancient story, this
ancient argument, is, well, not so ancient, after all. The world has never
lacked Ezras. In fact, one could argue that there is a little Ezra embedded in
the genetic code of each of us. But look at what Kim and Bill, like Ruth’s
author, teach us instead. It is hard to find two smarter, more talented people.
As my dad sometimes puts it, between them they have more degrees than a
thermometer. And I am talking about those degrees, where you get to put
initials after your name! And, because they are smart, they have each been
lifelong learners. Hell, Bill even stopped over in India for about twelve years just
to widen the scope of his learning. And mention the Thai monarch to Kim, and
one of the first things she will tell, as a Thai point of pride, is that he was
born in a foreign country, THIS one. He is, in fact, the only monarch I know of
who was born in Cambridge, Massachusetts, and then attended Harvard!
Kim and Bill have treated
new experiences, foreign and domestic, not as enemies, but as opportunities.
And so, when they each wanted to meet someone, it did not matter that that
person was of a different nationality, of a different faith, and spoke a
different language. Who cares? Is this person good, kind, smart, caring,
loving? Is this person a curious and thoughtful person? Do I feel like this
person and I are meant to be? Do I know that, being together with this person
will make my dreams come true? If the answers are yes, yes, yes, and hell yes,
who cares about all the rest? If anything, it will make for a better, more
interesting, and much more enriching partnership.
This message, inherent in
the way Kim and Bill live their lives, as individuals and as a couple is
important, critical, vital to the global village we live in today. And so, let
us hold up Kim and Bill, as the example the elders saw in Ruth and Boaz:
"May the Lord make the woman who is entering your house like Rachel and
like Leah, both of whom built up the house of Israel,
and prosper in Ephrathah and be famous in Bethlehem."
So may it be, so may it be…
