I ask every person I marry,
not only why they want to get married, but why now. Lorens’s answer is, um,
interesting: “To me Ramsey is like Wasabi.” This may be the first groom of more
than 400 to analogize his bride to a condiment. Stick with him, though. He
explains that what he means is that she has a spicy nature, which keeps him on
his toes, and “makes things interesting and joyful... Her kindness and genuine
heart, and joi de vivre would win any man over.” And then like every good Jew
he answers a question with a question, “Why wouldn’t I want to marry her now?”
When I asked Ramsey to write
about herself, she did so in a way that very few people do. She wrote in the
third person. To me this is very telling. I believe that it says that the
person is able to step outside of herself, see the world from others’ points of
view, and understand that there is something greater than what meets the eye. That
type of thinking is crucial to a successful marriage, because central to
marriage is the understanding that it’s not all about you.
Lorens embraced this wise
idea early on, and it strengthened inside him, as he matured: “Since I was a
kid, I always questioned why things are the way they are... I always enjoyed
talking with men of science or of faith – especially Rabbis, trying to figure
out why something was the way it was. I always felt the presence of God, but
when I went to engineering school, I... had a new-found appreciation of
existence.”
It is this shared deep
consciousness that moves Ramsey to say, I didn’t seriously date for years
because I was sure it was impossible for me to find someone a quarter of the
man my dad is. I was lucky enough to find this in Lorens.”
This is why Lorens says, “I
always tried to figure out who the right one was... life guided me to the
answer I couldn’t have dreamt of.”
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