I always ask people how they met. However, really what I am looking for is the relationship’s origin story. Sometimes, that origin story is not in how they met, but in something else that happened down the road. To set the stage, Lindsey and Ian had known each other for a few months, had been hanging out and enjoying some real chemistry, followed by a somewhat anti-climactic first date, and Lindsey fleeing the country. (Not really, but it sounds way more dramatic that way, doesn’t it?) Here’s Ian:
“Throughout the whole time she was in the Galapagos, hardly a day went by that we didn’t talk to each other. When Lindsey returned to
, she let me know that she would like to come
down to Rolla and see me, and she promptly loaded up her car to drive to a
place she had never been. I don’t remember exactly what she said, but it is one
of the most romantic moments that I cherish. Of course, my roommates used the
next hour and a half to clean furiously. Lindsey and I have been together ever
Now, you might think this daring caper came out of the blue. Not so. In fact, months earlier, Ian had told Megan up here that he would marry Lindsey. He then set about to make that happen. Lindsey picks up the story:
“As the weeks went by, Ian befriended my roommates. He found reasons to hang out at our house or meet up with us. He fixed things, he tutored people and he cooked. He came to game night, poker night, and parties. By the summer, Ian made himself a constant fixture in my life without even asking me on a date, and so logically the next thing he decided to do was have me meet his parents and all of their friends in another state.
Ian told me that there was going to be celebration at his parent's house in
(4 hours away) for the 4th of July.
He told me that he invited all the other co-ops and that I should come too.
However, in reality he never asked anyone else to join--not that he told me
that. I agreed to go and stay the weekend at their house. It was a wonderful
Think about the courage it takes to do the things that Lindsey and Ian did. Resolve to act similarly. As they say in the business world, the return on investment is clearly worth it.