Some of the best lessons couples have taught me have been, interestingly enough, unconscious lessons, lessons they may not have realized themselves.
Amanda tells a fascinating story about her childhood: "Friday nights were a particularly special time for us, as my dad often played his guitar in family services. I remember thinking he was 'famous' and I admired him so much for standing up in front of our entire congregation to sing." Now, Amanda wrote this about her dad, a good few months before someone else here actually became famous, having done something that no American had in thirteen years.
But, of course, that is not where Amanda's story about her dad ends. She adds, "I loved seeing the joy in my mother’s eyes as she watched him up there. The twinkle in my mother’s eyes that I noticed at Friday night services was the twinkle she had from knowing she was in love. That sparkle comes knowing the man she was sharing her life with was her best friend, team mate, and confidant."
So, yes, the child-Amanda thought her dad was famous. However, even then it was clear to her that that was not the point, and that was not what mattered. What mattered was her parents' love story, that they had written together. And so, many years later, Amanda wrote, "That’s what I wanted, and that’s what I found when I met
And why does
want to write his
love story, or rather continue to write his love story with Amanda. He tells
us, "Amanda carries all the qualities that I have looked for: caring,
loving, supportive and patient." Here is where he gets a little meta in
this context, "She cares to know people on a deeper level and understand
what in their past has affected the way they are today." So, intriguingly,
he desires to write a shared love story with her, because she so cares about
other people's stories! Logan
What Amanda and Logan teach us today is that what really matters is not how many people know our name, and not what someone someday might say about an external achievement. What matters are the stories we write together with our lovers and with our loved ones. Because in the grand scheme of things, when we are all long gone, those stories of love and the meaning inherent in them will long live on.